Gym Etiquette 201: An Advanced Lifter's Guide to Common Decency

Tony Gentilcore
Written By: Tony Gentilcore
October 1st, 2015
Updated: June 13th, 2020
Categories: Articles Training
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Gym Etiquette 201: An Advanced Lifter's Guide to Common Decency
Strength coach Tony Gentilcore is here to teach you all you need to know about gym etiquette. Advanced lifters and trainers are not exempt from these rules!

This is a special guest post from strength coach Tony Gentilcore. It was originally published on his blog, but we thought you'd want to check it out!

A friend of mine and amazing writer, James Fell, wrote a clever piece recently titled Gym Etiquette 101 highlighting some of the not-so-etiquette-like shenanigans many gym goers are violators of. Give it a read. It's hilarious.

After reading it myself I was inspired to shell out my own list of Gym Etiquette rules.

Admittedly I sort of live in a gym etiquette bubble at Cressey Sports Performance. We have the luxury of setting the standard, frowning upon, and "policing" many of the things that would otherwise be par-for-the-course at your typical commercial gym.

Case in point: here's the sign that greeted all of our athletes and (non-athlete) clients when they passed through our doors circa 2008-2010.

Gym Etiquette 201: No Cell Phones!

We've since stopped making the sign public - we felt it didn't give off a good first impression with parents - but the "rule" still exists.

Whenever I see a young athlete stopping a session to walk over to check his phone, I'll follow suit and say something to the effect of "unless you're texting with Emma Watson about your plans for dinner tonight, get back over to the squat rack."

Likewise you won't see anyone at CSP get all huffy about sharing a piece of equipment. Yelling or grunting during a set is encouraged. If you're not using chalk (and wearing lifting gloves instead) you're a tool. And you can't load up the leg press machine and then leave all your weights because we don't have a leg press machine to begin with.


Similarly there are a handful of implied "un-written" rules as well. Like:

  1. Thursdays are generally reserved for Tony's Techno Thursdays. (Side note: also known as Tony's Techno Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday.)
  2. Eric will inevitably throw his hands in the air, say something along the lines of "this music is making my ears bleed," and then put on Linkin Park radio.
  3. No driect arm work until you're able to perform one strict, bodyweight chin-up (women) or five chin-ups (men).
  4. Tony has to coach with his shirt on. Which is BS.
  5. Don't feed Tank! He's like a Gremlin.

Gym Etiquette 201 - Unwritten Rules

Pretty simple, right?

However, all of this isn't to say I never have the opportunity to venture outside my little bubble and train at a commercial gym. I like visiting different gyms now and again, if for nothing else than to have a change of scenery (and for the entertainment value).

When this happens I'm always amused as to some of the things that transpire and some of the etiquette rules that are broken.

It's as if people's social filter is somehow blocked when they're surrounded by barbells and dumbbells. Or maybe it's the plume of Axe Body Spray rendering people inert from giving a shit.

Either way here are some of my own thoughts. Consider this tuition-free Gym Etiquette 201.

1. Don't be a Coach

I can't reiterate enough how annoying it is when people offer unsolicited advice. I've never done it personally, but have been approached by random people in the past who asked me a question or two. That's different. If someone goes out of their way to ask your advice or opinion on something, have at it.

If someone is minding their own business (especially if they're wearing headphones) - and even if the exercise they're doing resembles more of a mating dance than an actual exercise - keep your yapper shut. Move along with your life. No one cares.

2. Don't be a Coach (even if you're a personal trainer)

However, for many new personal trainers who have to log "floor hours" (code speak for pick up after people) at the start of their employment, offering unsolicited advice is kinda what you have to do to "recruit" potential clients.

Tread lightly.

Don't be the guy or girl who approaches everyone within a two-mile radius to correct their technique. It's one thing to offer some words of insight or encouragement to someone who's obviously struggling or runs the risk of injuring themselves. It's another thing to interrupt the guy deadlifting 400+ lbs (for reps) that he may be lacking some left hip internal rotation which may be affecting his Zone of Apposition.

"Here's my card, we should talk."

Have some "feel" and know when to pick your battles.

When I worked in commercial gyms I always found success showing people new exercises or a slight tweak to one they're already doing, and then moved on. I didn't linger like a creepoid and proceed to the awkward, "Soooo, are you looking for a personal trainer" conversation.

They way I saw it: if I offered a quick ah-HA moment to a few people per day - which was no biggie since I was being paid for my time anyways - and didn't make things awkward, at some point the law of averages would dictate someone would bite and seek me out for my services.

I also offered "free" 15-30 minute tutorials where I broke down technique on a specific movement (squat, KB swing) or maybe gave a quick-n-dirty core training class and introduced people to deadbugs, Pallof Presses, or not sit-ups.

3. Know your Stuff

Another thing to consider - if you are an uppity douche and always insisting on giving people unsolicited advice - is to know what you're talking about. This is especially true if you're a personal trainer.

I once had a trainer come up to me at a commercial gym to inform me I wasn't going down low enough on my squats and that I was leaning too far forward.

I had just completed a set of good mornings.

4. No More Mirin'

Hey guy who can't walk past a mirror without doing one of those fake I-have-sweat-on-my-forehead-and-need-to-wipe-it-off-with-my-shirt-but-what-I'm-really-doing-is-checking-out-my-abs moves.

Once or twice you get a mulligan.

After that, stop it. Your abs didn't disappear. They're still there.

5. Save your Grunts

I actually don't care if someone makes noise when training. It's a gym not a library. In a commercial gym, though, it can get a little controversial because some people take it a little too far.

I won't name the actor, but I remember a few years ago I was training at a reputable high-end gym when, after a set of deadlifts, I heard the most audacious roaring coming from around the corner.

I had to go take a peek.

I was expecting to see some ginormous human being lifting a bulldozer. What I found instead was said actor finishing a set of DB presses with 50 lbs.

Gym Etiquette 201 - Don't Grunt When you Curl!

YEAH! You're the man.

6. Conserve Water

Like everyone else on Earth, I have a particular affinity towards water. And I think it's awesome you're someone who takes their hydration so seriously that you carry around a gallon jug to ensure you're hydrated to the best of your ability.

But do you have to fill up the entire jug at the gym when five other people are waiting in line at the water fountain?

7. Ditch the Primal Scream

I'm all for pumping yourself up prior to a big lift. But spare everyone the HEY EVERYONE LOOK AT ME WWE worthy entrance before every set.

Trust me: you're not the Ultimate Warrior. And a 225 lb quarter squat isn't impressing anyone.

8. A Tip For the Guys

Just because a woman is in the free-weight area doesn't mean she needs you to come "rescue" her and offer a spot with every single lift. She's good.

9. A Tip For Everyone

Just because a woman is squatting or deadlifting doesn't mean she's automatically an athlete or is training for some sort of competition.

My wife has the best response whenever someone asks her "Whoa. You're really getting after it. What are you training for?"

"Life. I'm training for life."

10. Do You.

We all have our biases and what we like to do. Meatheads like to lift. Yogis like to yoga. Pilates people like to pilaticize. Runners like to run. CrossFitters like to perform scoliosis for AMRAP.

Just kidding CrossFit. Kinda…

It’s all good. Whatever makes people happy and gets them moving is a win. Let's stop being so judgmental towards one another, attempting to prove one way is inferior to YOUR way, and trying to “one-up” everyone else.

It’s one thing if someone is paying you for your advice and expertise and has hired you to help them achieve a specific goal. If that’s the case, use whatever modality is the best fit for them, their goals, their ability level, and what you’re comfortable coaching.

Outside of that, mind your own business.

Bronwyn ovens
Posted on: Fri, 08/11/2023 - 07:29

How about etiquette or manners between personal trainers? I am in a gym with "outside" trainers renting space and honestly I feel like I am in their space. I train functional, trx and conditioning but the cross fit peeps just take over! Please help :-)

Peter mullen
Posted on: Sun, 12/13/2015 - 21:59

All people under age 30 should learn manners quick. Stay off the phone and train

Posted on: Fri, 11/13/2015 - 02:06

informative really help me!